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The Causes of Divorce
In America today, one of many people’s main life goals is to marry the first person they fall in love with, live happily ever after, and skip gleefully away to live the American dream. However, millions of married couples quickly find themselves turning to divorce as an answer, to ending the fairy tale they had once dreamed. Many people would ask “why?” the perfect couple would choose such a negative ending to their once happy marriage. In some cases, many couples have to question their own motives for divorce. Although there are many alternate roots to fixing the simplest problems that may occur in a marriage, for some, simple does not always mean easy. It is certain that the cause of divorce varies from couple to couple, yet lack of communication, money and children, is among the most common causes of divorce.
Lack of communication in a marital relationship, is one of the most common causes of divorce, because when two people lack communication, they are unable to solve problems that may occur in the marriage. Many married couples think that the minor problems that occur in their marriage, are insignificant, and are not worth talking about; however, they fail to realize that even the smallest things can cause conflict between the two when they are not able to solve them through communication. Many couples lack communication when it comes to making decisions about shared finances. This can cause financial issues to arise, and arguments to escalade in the marriage. Many couples also lack communication when it comes to making decisions for their children.
When one spouse does not agree with a decision made by the other spouse, then an argument can occur, and result by one or both parties sharing a feeling of resentment against the other. Lack of communication in all areas of the marriage, can cause strain on the relationship. It is common for many couples to subject themselves to the distractions of everyday life, therefore leaving very little time for communication. This can cause marital problems to be over looked, triggering a range of feelings to explode in the marital relationship, and result in divorce.
Another common cause of divorce is money. Many people say, “Money is the root of all evil,” as in a marriage it can be the root of all problems. When one spouse makes all of the financial decisions, and the other spouse does not agree with the decisions that he or she is making, then conflicts can occur between the two of them. Financial obligations that accompany the birth of a child can also cause conflict between the two, when they are not financially prepared for the increase in financial responsibility, which a couple gains when having children. This financial responsibility can affect the marriage drastically, when what seemed to be enough for the two, is not enough to provide for a family. For many married couples, an over-spending of funds by one or both partners can occur. This situation can put the couple in debt, and the debt can become a burden hovering over the marriage. No matter how much love that two people have for one another, it takes money to live a normal life. Lack of money can cause conflict in a marriage, sometimes escalating in intense arguments, and resulting in divorce.
Children are also among one of the leading causes of divorce. Many couples would believe that having children comes with the territory of being married, however, for some having children not agreed upon; can cause a light to burn out in their marriage. Children factor in to the financial stress of a marriage, as well as the lack of communication in a marriage.
Children require a lot of support from both parents, and when only one parent is working, the amount of support coming in, is sometimes not enough. This situation causes many married couples to argue over financial issues. They also argue over the decisions made for their children, when one of the partners does not agree with the other in certain situations. This causes them to resent each other, and puts the marriage in jeopardy. Children also require a lot of nurture, and though needed by both parents, normally only one has time to give them the full attention that they need. This often causes spouses to become jealous, because they feel that they are no longer getting the attention that they were once use too. This can often lead to adultery among one or both partners, as the feel they are no longer important to their spouse. Many couples experience this conflict in a marriage, and as a result, they turn to divorce as a way out of an unhappy situation.
Divorce, no matter the reason, is never easy. Whether a couple’s decision to divorce is for the good or bad, it is certain there are many affects that it has on the couple’s individual lives. Many people experience depression, lose property, and find themselves in single parent households, because of divorce. Nevertheless, millions of married couples today, lack the knowledge of how to deal with marital problems. Many couples often go through their marriage ignoring the fact that Problems can and will arise. They tend to take their marriage for granted. Even so, it is certain that no one ever expects the worst to come out the marriage. Many fail to realize that lack of communication, money, and children, is among the most common causes of divorce.
In America today, one of many people’s main life goals is to marry the first person they fall in love with, live happily ever after, and skip gleefully away to live the American dream. However, millions of married couples quickly find themselves turning to divorce as an answer, to ending the fairy tale they had once dreamed. Many people would ask “why?” the perfect couple would choose such a negative ending to their once happy marriage. In some cases, many couples have to question their own motives for divorce. Although there are many alternate roots to fixing the simplest problems that may occur in a marriage, for some, simple does not always mean easy. It is certain that the cause of divorce varies from couple to couple, yet lack of communication, money and children, is among the most common causes of divorce.
Lack of communication in a marital relationship, is one of the most common causes of divorce, because when two people lack communication, they are unable to solve problems that may occur in the marriage. Many married couples think that the minor problems that occur in their marriage, are insignificant, and are not worth talking about; however, they fail to realize that even the smallest things can cause conflict between the two when they are not able to solve them through communication. Many couples lack communication when it comes to making decisions about shared finances. This can cause financial issues to arise, and arguments to escalade in the marriage. Many couples also lack communication when it comes to making decisions for their children.
When one spouse does not agree with a decision made by the other spouse, then an argument can occur, and result by one or both parties sharing a feeling of resentment against the other. Lack of communication in all areas of the marriage, can cause strain on the relationship. It is common for many couples to subject themselves to the distractions of everyday life, therefore leaving very little time for communication. This can cause marital problems to be over looked, triggering a range of feelings to explode in the marital relationship, and result in divorce.
Another common cause of divorce is money. Many people say, “Money is the root of all evil,” as in a marriage it can be the root of all problems. When one spouse makes all of the financial decisions, and the other spouse does not agree with the decisions that he or she is making, then conflicts can occur between the two of them. Financial obligations that accompany the birth of a child can also cause conflict between the two, when they are not financially prepared for the increase in financial responsibility, which a couple gains when having children. This financial responsibility can affect the marriage drastically, when what seemed to be enough for the two, is not enough to provide for a family. For many married couples, an over-spending of funds by one or both partners can occur. This situation can put the couple in debt, and the debt can become a burden hovering over the marriage. No matter how much love that two people have for one another, it takes money to live a normal life. Lack of money can cause conflict in a marriage, sometimes escalating in intense arguments, and resulting in divorce.
Children are also among one of the leading causes of divorce. Many couples would believe that having children comes with the territory of being married, however, for some having children not agreed upon; can cause a light to burn out in their marriage. Children factor in to the financial stress of a marriage, as well as the lack of communication in a marriage.
Children require a lot of support from both parents, and when only one parent is working, the amount of support coming in, is sometimes not enough. This situation causes many married couples to argue over financial issues. They also argue over the decisions made for their children, when one of the partners does not agree with the other in certain situations. This causes them to resent each other, and puts the marriage in jeopardy. Children also require a lot of nurture, and though needed by both parents, normally only one has time to give them the full attention that they need. This often causes spouses to become jealous, because they feel that they are no longer getting the attention that they were once use too. This can often lead to adultery among one or both partners, as the feel they are no longer important to their spouse. Many couples experience this conflict in a marriage, and as a result, they turn to divorce as a way out of an unhappy situation.
Divorce, no matter the reason, is never easy. Whether a couple’s decision to divorce is for the good or bad, it is certain there are many affects that it has on the couple’s individual lives. Many people experience depression, lose property, and find themselves in single parent households, because of divorce. Nevertheless, millions of married couples today, lack the knowledge of how to deal with marital problems. Many couples often go through their marriage ignoring the fact that Problems can and will arise. They tend to take their marriage for granted. Even so, it is certain that no one ever expects the worst to come out the marriage. Many fail to realize that lack of communication, money, and children, is among the most common causes of divorce.
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